Wednesday, 29 July 2020

Ultimate Round -up for Beginner Homeschoolers




Congratulations you are considering homeschooling or perhaps new to this adventure. 


I bet you are feeling nervous, excited and perhaps a little overwhelmed. It is completely understandable, but don't worry. I've got you covered.  In this post I've laid out the basics of how to get started homeschooling along with links to over 20 amazing homeschool blog posts all to help you feel more confident about your new adventure.

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1. First thing to do is to find out the laws surrounding homeschooling in your area. Each State or Province has different rules.


2. Take time to journal and think about why you are choosing to homeschool. Every family is unique and has their own reasons. What is yours? Also write down what you hope to gain from homeschooling your children? What do you want your children to come away with from their time at home? What are your family values? What are your long term goals?

Once you have a clear picture of why you want to homeschool and where you hope it leads you will be able to filter all the rest through those things. Such as what curriculum will best fit your family etc.

Overcoming 6 Homeschool Fears



3. Deschool - this is taking time to adjust to being at home together. Take some time out to relax and shift your mindset way from the traditional public school setting. For some it takes longer than others. Focus now on connecting with your kids, finding their passions, and enjoy being together. Summer is the perfect time to do this!



4. Learn about the different methods, styles and philosophies available. Don't overwhelm yourself but it is helpful to know that there are other ways to teach your children other than what is taught in traditional public school. Once you find a method that interests you, go ahead and learn more about that style.





5. Along with knowing how you want to teach you also want to understand how your children learn best so that you can find a good match. 








6. Now comes the fun and sometimes overwhelming part...figuring out what you want to teach your children. This will largely depend on your research done in step 4. Some families decide early on that they want to follow a particular method, while others choose a more general path. Are you frustrated at all because this isn't a simple clean cut deal? There are about a million companies offering curriculum because it is so customized to your unique children.

Over the years most families end up being an eclectic mix of several types of styles, choosing what resonates most with them. If you are just getting started, I suggest choosing one thing you like the look of that isn't too expensive and giving it a go for a few months. Many families just choose a workbook from Costco as a guide to get them going while they do more research on what they'd like. Talking to local homeschoolers is also a big help because you can find out what works for them. Don't start to compare yourself though. 

I know how easy it is to feel guilty that you aren't doing enough, or the 'right' things because someone else mentions that they are using the latest and greatest program.  Be confident in yourself and your choices.



7. Planning - now that you know what you want to teach it is time to plan that out. 
School doesn't actually take 8 hours. Realistically we only homeschool about 2 hours a day, but we are still learning by following our interests.



8. Give it a go. Take time to deschool with your children. Enjoy being together and finding out their interests. They say it take about 1 month for every year that a child was in public school to fully deschool.  Then slowly add in more to your day. If you jump in to soon with a full schedule you may all burn out. You may wish to start fresh in the fall and come up with a good plan then.


9. Adjust - we are constantly having to adjust our plans based on life circumstances, seasons, grades etc.







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Monday, 27 July 2020

Anger and Aggression


Anger is a feeling we have all felt at some point. It usually serves as a warning light to let us know that something is wrong. What we want to teach our children (and often ourselves) is to respond to the anger rather than ignore, punish or shame it.

Here is a video on how to talk about feelings with your family






 “Once children understand that their anger will be heard and responded to, they can express it more calmly, rather than defaulting to aggression. By contrast, kids who are given the message that anger is unacceptable or disrespectful try to repress it, which means the angry feelings go underground only to burst out unregulated by the conscious mind. Our attitude towards our child’s anger can therefore either help him learn to manage it or push him towards aggression.” ~ Dr. Laura Markham 

 

 


The key is to acknowledge the anger and the feelings behind that anger. Then the defences go down and the anger can melt away. Keep in mind that even while accepting feelings we can still set loving limits. We do need to keep ourselves, siblings and property safe.

When your child is calm you may wish to have some discussions about what anger feels like in their body. This way they can recognize it coming on. Resources and posters are available when you sign up for the Joyful Mud Puddles Newsletter

Juggling it All : Working from Home and Homeschooling



Do you ever get talking with someone and there is just so much to chat about?

What a fun conversation I have with Ashley over at 

In this episode, I interview Meaghan Jackson - ex-teacher turned homeschool mom and parenting/home school coach so that we can touch on the ever growing concern of juggling work from home with homeschooling - a challenge that many families are either already facing or will begin facing as the COVID-19 pandemic continues.

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Monday, 20 July 2020

The Magic Power of Breathing and Adaptive Yoga with Sasha Walsh




Today I am so excited to have a lifelong friend really. I've known her through my sister since we were kids. Sasha is an accessible yoga teacher training programs and parent workshops in hopes of inspiring more people to offer these concepts to children and others differently abled. Sasha is a yoga Alliance certified teacher specializing in accessible yoga for children. She serves the communities where people feel they're not able to participate in yoga classes and are missing out on the many people Benefits of the practice, she creates a unique accessible yoga program that are infused with different therapy styles play and breath work. Sasha is has designed programs for private students and community classes that focus on the students intentions and goals. She also offers inspiring mentor programs for yoga teachers who are interested or curious about bringing the art of yoga to underserved community and special populations.

Here are some of the highlights from our conversation. You can listen and watch the whole episode here:

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Tell us your story

I started teaching yoga nine years ago, yeah, nine years ago now I'm doing the child math in my head. So my daughter had just been born. My son was five at the time, and struggling immensely behavior, social emotional. So there were a lot of diagnoses and a lot of letters that were being thrown around as to what could be his issue. And the main thing that we were being told is therapy, play bass therapy. Get them involved, get them talking, try and get them talking. Cuz he was mostly non like very, not non verbal, but limited deliverable. So, for a five year old, you would expect some level of conversation and what's really happening and all of these kinds of things. And his therapy, involved breathing. And it was very interesting because I had been doing yoga for about four years myself. For my own practice, so I hadn't been teaching I've just been doing learning and managing my own self and doing my own breath work. And Riley came home with some homework from therapy. And it was a card and it said brief to calm down. And that literally shifted everything in our life. Because we were no longer calming down and breathing. The step was you have to breathe first in order to calm down. It was a huge it sounds a really silly simple shift, but it was mammoth in our world.

And I saw Riley go from a massive tantrum slash anxiety attack, which for him could have lasted days.
They're pretty epic. And we cuddled up and I put him on my lap, and I put his head on my chest. And I just did yoga breathing, which is called Ojai breath or the breathing so you can hear it. Right? Just audible.
And I rocked him back and forth. And we did that. And no word of a lie within 15 minutes. He had de-escalated. Wow. 

And never in the five to six years that he had been with us on this planet, had it ever taken that long to de-escalate. I was like, What is this magic?

What is this magic thing? And how can I help more kids with it? And then I discovered that there was no children's yoga for differently abled children. So I thought that's not okay, kids. kiddo, like my son, and someone who's in a wheelchair, and maybe someone who's afraid or they need their own space. And so I decided to learn how to teach kids yoga. And three, four certifications later and 1000 hours of training. I'm, a certified yoga instructor and I'm doing my own training. Now I'm training the teachers to take this program and go out so that more kids and more young people can get access to this.

So what is it about the breathing that worked? What was the magic?

So the magic honestly comes down to really basic biology, which is, when you are anxious when you are stressed, when you are angry, your breath gets shorter. Right? You don't do big deep breaths when you're in an escalated emotional state happy or sad or whatever. But when you're escalated, you don't take those big breaths. You're depriving your body of oxygen. And so your body starts thinking that there's something wrong because I can't get enough air. And so your physical body starts to feel like there's a problem. And it just adds to the emotional mental state when my body's telling me that there's a problem. 

So by bringing slower breaths, bigger breaths and training ourselves to make it on a subconscious level that you, your body automatically knows when it hits that point it actually needs to stop and take a big breath. That that's the part that takes time. But it's that stopping to take a big breath that actually slams brakes on that biological response. It says, hang on, no, we're okay. See, I just took another big deep breath. We're not we're not in peril, right? Nothing bad is happening too. 

And from a cognitive standpoint, when you start to stress, and those negative or positive, what those escalating thoughts are running around in your brain. A lot of times you can't get out of that circle of yuck that's going on in your head. Seeing yourself to focus on something else does that interruption. It gives your brain a break. And it doesn't make them go away. But it allows more oxygen to get to you. To your brain, it allows you more time to be like, "no, that's not a real thought."

You know, "deep breath in, I am actually okay. And I breathe out. " Right so you can start to interrupt and that's the whole case. Once you interrupt that escalation, then it's easier to use all of the other tools that you've learned, about redirecting yourself if you're stressed or, self regulation tools and accessing, just asking for help. Given that your body and your brain a pause with that breath. That's kind of the magic.



What are some ways we can play with breathing?

Sasha also shared some fun simple breathing activities you could play with your kids. Such as hockey with a pompom using your breath. But this important thing to note is that every child is different and will reacts differently to sensory inputs.

I loved the way Sasha word her message when you find something that doesn't work for your child, "that it's okay". When you find something that doesn't work, that you can actually celebrate that because then that's new learning. Instead of saying, "Well, that didn't work. Now we have to give up." It's "no let's try. Let's get more creative. Let's find something that is going to work." And it is also the principle of how she also adapts your yoga for families as well. It is all about working creatively.

Be sure to listen to the whole episode. I couldn't do it justice here in print.

So is there anything else that you wanted to make sure that people knew or how we can connect with you? What have you got going on these days there?

I'm so I'm launching level one of my teacher training in September. Registrations open July First, and level one is the level appropriate for parents, caregivers, educators, yoga instructors.  So you don't have to be a yoga instructor to take it. And it's how to integrate accessible yoga into your classroom or into your everyday home. Like, what's the big deal? How do we do it? So I have that starting in September. 

The other way you can find me is through my website, which is Jai Yogi's. I try and post little snippets for everyone. Inspiration for your home practice because that's really important for how you can bring these things that we do into your home and with your kiddos.

The other thing that I wanted to say that's really important is just to remember that Yoga is not this perfect thing that we have in our head when you say yoga.
Not the Instagram Lulu lemon thing. I mean it can be. There are some incredible Yogi's who do amazing things. But it doesn't have to be that way.  I'm not a size zero. I'm a mom of two special needs kids.I wear a knee brace. And yet, I consider myself a yogi, and I teach yoga. 

And so it's not so much about the pose and the perfection of it. But it's how did you get there? The feeling that getting into a pose brings you, the feeling of that breath in between when you move. That's the important part to me. It doesn't have to be this big thing. Yoga is literally the five minutes you took to, you know, take a breath while you were cooking dinner. You know Yoga is that big stretch you do just before you go to bed where you like notice every bit pop and stretch. That's still yoga.
It's the same. It's a little bit different, but it's still the same at its heart.


Connect with Sasha Walsh





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Monday, 13 July 2020

Self Regulation for the Whole Family



What are your triggers? What sets you off?


Just like our children, as parents we also struggle with regulating our own emotions. 

The problem is that we need manage our own feelings first when dealing with our children or everything blows up!

First I recommend understanding how the brain and emotions work together. You see when we are triggered our autonomic systems kick in and we resort to fight, flight and freeze mode. Our brain senses an emergency and response accordingly.  But most of life isn't an emergency so we need to help our brain to reengage and calm down.

Another interesting point to note is mirror neurones often kick-in and that explains why our kids flip -out when we do (or the other way around). Check out this week's Podcast video for a visual explanation of the hand/brain model below. This is a great one to demonstrate for your kids to help them understand what is going on too.



The best way to help your brain to calm down and start to fully work is to breathe! This will get more oxygen to your cells and and you will not panic so much. I highly recommend the podcast interview I had with Brooke Gordon as she shares with us her micro meditation technique! Next week I interview Sasha Walsh an adaptive yoga instructor who also focuses on breath work.


Check in with yourself often is another great way to help you stop your emotions from taking over. We often forget to care for ourselves throughout the day and suddenly our triggers hit us (things like hunger, thirst, heat, exhaustion, overwhelm, loud noises). I sometimes set a timer for every 1-2 hours and ask myself what I'm needing most in that moment, then do it and move on. When I care for myself throughout the day I can stay on top of things much better.

Post up signs everywhere! We literally made a feelings wall. It was more for myself than my kids to be honest. I used the STOP Mindfulness Method for key words that reminded me to not yell. Sign up for the Joyful Mud Puddles Newsletter and gain access to ALL my free posters (see form at the bottom of this post)




Practice is key to all of these strategies. The more you practice the more often your brain remembers what to do for the next time. Staying on top of your self care is preventative. In the heat of the moment some other ideas could include:

  • Parenting mantras
  • Tapping your wrists
  • Walking Away
  • Visualizing yourself or your child at their best
  • Naming your feelings
  • Stating your needs
  • Take a break (go to the bathroom, have a drink, have a mommy time-out)
Join me on the Joyful Mud Puddles Podcast for this week's episode on Self Regulation




You can also watch this video here on YouTube that includes the Hand-brain model and more self regulation tips.



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Wednesday, 8 July 2020

6 Organized Grocery Shopping Tips



Shopping is always a challenge especially when you have children. But shopping during a pandemic has been even more stressful and difficult to navigate. But wait… let’s not give up just yet. There are some ways to get organized and get the food we need to tame those hungry beasts!

 

1. Keep all your reusable shopping bags in the car. After you go to the grocery store pack all those bags inside one larger one and get them back into the car so you are ready for your next trip.

 

2. When making a list organize your needs by category. I’m sure by now you’ve memorized the layout of your favourite grocery store (that is until they go a rearrange it on you). So when you write your list imagine walking through the store and put your items in order or at least like items together. That way you can avoid having to zig zag all over the place.

 

3. If you have to take your children with you, make sure that they are well cared for before you go in. That means bathroom, water and food so that you aren’t having to deal with those issues in the middle of the store. You too parents! Hangry shopping means lots of extra junk in the cart because you are starving.


 



4. If your children tend to make a fuss every time you go shopping and want treats, make a plan before you go into the store. Decide before hand if you are gong to get something and what that will be. Setting clear expectations is important and can help avoid a meltdown or a cart full of junk.

 

5. Only take in the essentials. No need to bring in your whole purse or bag and coat inside. It just adds to the stress and number of things you need to keep track of. If you are concerned about picking up extra germs, then taking less with you can help with that issue too.

 

6. Plan to go shopping when it is the least busy time. Find out when your local store is not so busy and plan to go shopping then. Many stores have special hours for seniors too. For our family I go once a week on a Sunday morning while the family is sleeping in. This was I can go alone and the store is not busy at all.


7. Bonus Tip When you get home have one person unload, sort and wash the groceries while another person helps to put away. We put away the freezer food (often out of the package to save space) first, then move on to the fridge items. Our family washed anything we can in hot water and we soak the produce in baking soda water first.



 

Having a plan, a list and a happy shopper can make all the difference when you go to the store. I’d love to hear your shopping tips in the comments below!



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Monday, 6 July 2020

Summer Reading Challenge



Let's kick off this summer with something fun for the kids to do. This summer I wanted to encourage my boys to keep reading. 

My oldest loves to read and always has a new book on the go. My middle son prefers to read manuals rather than stories. His reading had definitely improved this year and he is feeling so proud. And our youngest is enjoying learning his letter sounds and tries so hard to write like his big brothers. He loves to pour over comic books and picture books with great interest. So why not keep that passion going throughout the summer months.




Lets do a summer reading challenge!!

When you decide to start any kind of challenge there are two things that you need to do. The first is to have a clear goal or end point. Otherwise you will loose interest quickly. You could come up with a goal for the family or each individual child.

For a reading challenge you may wish to track one of these or make up your own:
  • the number of books read
  • a set ending date
  • a certain number of hours you read
  • the number of pages you read
The second thing you need to keep motivated is a reward at the end to celebrate all your hard work. Now each family is unique and different so you'l have to determine what works best for you.

How about.....
  • A book themed party
  • Trip to the book store or a new book
  • Sweet treats
  • Special outing
  • Movie night based on a book
  • New toy
  • Zoom call with friend and family to celebrate
  • Create your own trophies and have an award ceremony
  • Make a certificate
In order to track all our reading I have created several printable that your family might find helpful. These can all be downloaded FREE by signing up for the Joyful Mud Puddles Newsletter. You'll gain access to all my freebies. (see the sign up at the bottom of this post)







I can't wait to see what your family does for this challenge. Post your pictures and share your celebrations with us on the 


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